Relationships - October 2023
This article was published in the October 2023 issue of the Youngstown Buckeye Review, a locally owned black publication.
Biology, physics, philosophy, psychology, and religion prove humans are Producers, not consumers. For the sake of our children, we must abolish everything about the consumer. We must begin seeing one another as Producers and utilizing Producer language to think, talk, and make decisions about EVERYTHING. [See producerconsciousness.com.]
Producer Language for Relationships: The quality of your relationships is a function of the Vectors you bring to each relationship. [Remember, you have a Vector for each person, place, thing, and idea you’ve encountered since birth.] Some key Vectors affecting your relationships are your Mommy Vector, Daddy Vector, Vector for each relative, Vector for each friend, Vector for each past relationship, and Vectors for beliefs, values, and interest. Your Vectors contain negative and positive FARTs (feelings, actions, reactions, and thoughts) that your brain-mind produced for those people, places, things, or ideas. [Remember, your brain-mind produces a negative FARTs for people, places, things, and ideas seen as threats to survival or flourishing; positive FARTs are produced for people, places, things, and ideas seen as contributions to survival or flourishing.] Therefore, the quality of your relationships is a function of the FARTs in the Vectors you bring to each relationship.
As an example, say you’re producing negative FARTs (i.e., anger) for something your partner says or does (i.e., the Inputs). Your brain-mind treats these Inputs as threats to survival or flourishing; resulting in the production of the negative FARTs. It’s often the case that your brain-mind is associating what your partner says and does with the negative FARTs in your Vectors for other people (e.g., Mommy Vector, Daddy Vector, or the Vector for a past relationship). In short, your anger at someone else is being taken out on your partner. Furthermore, your ME Vector, which contains the positive and negative FARTs you’ve produced about yourself, is often involved in your production of FARTs for your partner. A ME Vector filled with negative FARTs is not conducive to a quality relationship.
Communication: Communication is very important for “producing” quality relationships. Producer language is an effective way to communicate. First, see one another as Producers. Second, know that you have Vectors for people, places, things, and ideas that contain FARTs (feelings, actions, reactions, and thoughts). Third, know that your brain-mind utilizes the FARTs in these Vectors to produce FARTs for what your partner says and does. Fourth, talk openly about your Vectors (especially, your ME Vector) and how they might be affecting the relationship. Communicating in this manner can stop the harmful influence your Vectors have on a relationship.
The adage “you can’t love another until you love yourself” can be confusing. In Producer language the “self” is the fact that you are a Producer. Hence, the adage means you can’t “produce” love for another until you understand that the FARTs you produce for your partner are influenced by the FARTs in your Vectors for the people, places, things, and ideas you’ve encountered since birth. And the big one is that you can’t produce love for another until you understand the FARTs in your ME Vector.